I recently read (and commented on) a post by Shelley at My Shoebox Life on being yourself. You can read it here.
It has really made me think. Not just about being myself but about a whole host of issues surrounding me as a person and where I am in my life. I wrote a post recently when I was a little down and in it I discussed how I was at loggerheads somewhat with two of my longest standing friends. I am now convinced the issue truly lies with me and not them.
You see, I think I spend an inordinate amount of effort trying to be something I'm not. Forcing the square into the circle so to speak. I also waste alot of energy worrying about what others think. This is probably due to a slightly chameleon aspect to my personality where I try to fit in no matter what the scenario.
I think it's time I let go. I think it's time I tried to just be exactly who I am.
This will be no easy thing. I have spent years cultivating certain behaviours that are going to be difficult to undo.
But I think I'm going to give it go. And let the chips fall where they may.
(Thank you Shelley.)
I've Got an Itchy Trigger Finger. No, Really!
4 months ago
Good on you.
ReplyDeleteWhy are we so hell bent on 'people pleasing'?
Just being your true self should be enough for the ones that matter.
Right?!
:-)
H'mm. You could be describing me there. And it doesn't work. Trying to be who you're not. I'm now making sure to just be 'me'. Okay, so most of my family can't be bothered with me any more. I only have one really good friend left, and a husband who loves me in spite of all my flaws. That's enough for me and at least it makes my life a whole lot easier
ReplyDeletethose who matter, love you just as you are, those who don't, really don't matter.
ReplyDeletethere are few things we have in this world that are certain - ourselves is one of them, who we are, what we believe in, how we act, how we love ourselves - nothing is truer that that, hold onto it, cherish it and most importantly let it flow through your soul every single day as real & true as it is in it's rawest natural form.
remember, we are all here trying to do our very best, we are all also our harshest critics - don't beat yourself up because there is always someone just round the corner waiting and willing to do it for you.
wake up tomorrow & revel in BEING YOU.
xxx